How to Talk to Women
Conquering Approach Anxiety
I teach of a lot of different social improvement
classes, and by far the most common question I get from my students
is "How do I talk to women?"
Well the secret to talking to women is not something I can answer in
merely one article, but the biggest improvement a guy can make is
getting over approach anxiety.
Understand that there may be some physical things that are not a
choice, especially in the beginning when you first start trying to
talk to a lot of women. You might get nervous, you might feel
uncomfortable, you might sweaty palms, but you can still act. You
want to make sure that you donít freak out, and that you understand
that approach anxiety will be there but it is something you can
build up a progressive tolerance to, and become more and more
impervious to while learning how to talk to women.
The same way that boxers do full-contact sparring, you can learn to
feel those feelings, take the emotional hit, act anyway, and talk to
any women you choose. By making small progressive steps, you'll
start to actually build those muscles up. You may have to start by
just going to the mall and making eye contact and saying hi to ten
people (men and women). But that's a start. You want to get these
balls rolling because as you do more and more of the stuff you start
to build more and more momentum, and that mindset of building
momentum and not trying to do it all at once, is really important.
So this is basically the first key in learning how to talk to
women. The first step is simply getting used to this anxiety.
The more women to try and talk to, the easier it will be become.
Once youíve mastered this, youíll be well on your way to
successfully talking to and picking up women.