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How to Impress a Woman
Verbal and Non-verbal Congruence
I've mentioned before that
verbal communication is the primary way in which you're going to
master the art of how to impress a woman, but today I want to
focus on getting congruency between your verbal and non-verbal
communication. Congruency is key in really learning how to
impress a woman.
Now the reason nonverbal
communication is important is because it allows you to send messages
about your attitude, your comfort level, your emotional kind of
temperature, so that girls can tell if you're happy, or sad, or if
you're jealous, or this, that or the other. And it also allows you
to communicate on multiple channels to make sure that your
communication is as varied and complex and full as possible. So
you're making sure that women are getting the full benefit of your
communication, both nonverbally, and verbally. And that's why
nonverbal communication is very important to mastering how to
impress a woman-because if your nonverbal communication
doesn't match your verbal communication you're going to come off
incongruent.
So that's the big benefit of
nonverbal communication - when you say something, and what you're
saying with how you're acting don't line up, you fall into the
creepy category. And the reason is that women can tell something's
off, they can tell you're not who you're pretending to be, and
because of that, even if all the things you're saying are
attractive, you're not going impress a woman because she can
tell that it's not correct, that there's something a little bit off.
There's something in your body language, your tonality, this, that
or the other, and that's where you get guys who can't hold eye
contact, and can't speak to a woman for three or four minutes, and
they're trying to tell her a story about their stripper
ex-girlfriend, and the nonverbal communication just tells the
woman everything she needs to know about this story and this guy.
In order to really learn how
to impress a woman, you need to practice congruency between your
verbal and non-verbal communication.
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