What Will They Say About You At Your Funeral?
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This week I have a special treat for you. It's one of the exercises I have
students do on the first day of bootcamps.. I call it The Epitaph. Epitaphs
are brief writings in praise of a deceased person. The idea is to think
about all the things you want to be remembered for.
I want you to step away
from the computer, find a pen, piece of paper and a clock of some sort. Now
put 5 minutes of time on the clock and write about how you WANT to be
thought of. Ultimately on the day you die. What will the people who knew you
Don't stop writing for the
entire 5 minutes jot down every word that comes to mind. This is your time
to be creative and really let out all the things you would do if there were
no chances of failure.
Here's a few questions if you're having a hard time getting started:
Who would you want to be
How would you want to be
What would you have wanted
to be known for?
What would you have
What lasting mark would you
leave on those that knew you?
What was the purpose of
Ok, Now I want you guys to
actually do this exercise. So stop reading right here until you finish.
Glad to have you back. Now I want you to do the harder part of this
Read your epitaph out loud to yourself.
If you're like most people your epitaph didn't read " Lover of porn . Ate
lots of pizza and watched lots of TV. " You probably want to be remembered
as a man with a vision, a man who lived every day to the fullest and was
remembered by the hundreds of women who loved him." Ok maybe that's just how
I want mine to read. But the point is good sirs, that most of want to
accomplish things before we die, we want to experience the best of as many
things as we can.
We ultimately want to live
a life worth remembering.
But what do we do on a daily basis? We go about our routine. We get up
earlier than we'd like to brave traffic on the way to a job that may not
fulfill us. We come home to a life with too few friends and even fewer
beautiful women. Why? Because it's comfortable. Because it's what we're used
to. Virginia Satir who was one of the Gestalt therapists Neuro Linguistics
Programming was based on has a great quote. She said " the most basic human
urge is not to survive, it is to do that which is comfortable." So we
justify our mediocrity and unhappiness because it's easier than going after
what we want and failing. But if you continue to do this, you will not live
a life worth remembering.
So take a look at that
epitaph you've just written yourself and look at all the qualities you want
to be remembered for. Write them out into a list and try to be a little more
like that every day. If you want to be really ambitious buy a small notepad
and carry it around with you at all times. Record the times you embody the
qualities and the times you fail. Next write down the things you want to
accomplish. If you want to build your own business, write it down. Learn to
dance the tango, on the list. Write down everything you want to do before
you die. Finally write down a list of people you want in your life. You
don't need to name them specifically, but if you want an awesome girlfriend,
or wife, or three awesome "friends with benefits" write it down. Do you want
great friends that you go to art exihibits with? Write it down. If you want
to get really fancy you can go down to your local arts and crafts store and
buy a corkboard, then find some images of the things you want to work for
and toward and create a vision board.
Start working every day, towards building a life worth remembering!
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